Interconnectedness: the state of being connected with each other.
"the interconnectedness of all things in the universe"
How easy is it to connect with someone you have things in common with? You chat, you enjoy each other's company, you look at each other and you're like, "I get you!" What's even more is that they get you as well. I know this feeling, and I love this feeling. You feel connected on a deeper level. With all of the yoga festivals I've been to and the 500+ hours of Yoga Teacher Training I've participated in, I've been half of a partnership of eye gazing. This is a way to feel some serious connection, on a deeper level. You get this sense that you've known this person in front of you as a soul for many lifetimes and you get this overwhelming feeling of fullness and love in your heart.
How about connecting with Gaia, Mother Earth? So easy when the weather is beautiful, when you see a perfect sunset, when there's a slight breeze on a warm summer day that brings just the right temperature to your skin. Yes, another time when you can feel that deep connection with the Earth without any effort.
Now, here's the true test. Close your eyes and think about someone that rubs you. Can you feel that same deep sense of connection? Can you go out in a winter storm, rain pelting your face with a frigid wind whipping your hair around, and feel that deep sense of connection with the Earth?
I'm not able to... YET
This is part of my work. As I sit here in pain from the winter storms, so cold and unable to really get warm each day, no matter how warm I dress, how high the heater is turned up, or how many blankets I layer on top of myself, I try to embrace the Mother and all of her seasons. Not easy. I am going through a divorce that is not as difficult as some and more difficult than others, and trying to feel a sense of connection to someone who treats me the way an ex-husband tends to treat an ex-wife is not easy. In fact, it is the most difficult thing I think I've ever tried to do in my life. I have moments where I'm able to, and I'm able to let everything go that he has said and done, and then there are other moments (like this entire week) where he succeeds at pushing my buttons, getting to me, and me reacting rather than coming to my breath, and being able to handle the situation with grace. There is a direct correlation to how I handle the situations he brings to me. When I am regularly meditating and practicing yoga, I am able to handle what is given to me through grace and connection. When I don't make time for the practices I know I need, I handle the interactions like a rabid dog, wanting blood, and lashing out and getting consumed by hate. This doesn't feel good and it is not pretty. And, I'm the one who loses.
Back to my practice today. I had a nice Kundalini Yoga session followed by Kundalini Meditation. I feel much more calm. I still reacted instead of responded to the nonsense thrown at me today by him, however, I was able to pause, take a breath and wish him happiness.
Everything is energy and if you allow the negative beings in the world to let you lose the sense of connection to all beings, your body is the one that suffers.
Sit in a comfortable position, sitting tall, lengthening through the back of the neck and gently tucking the chin. Bring your hands into Anjali Mudra (prayer) at your heart center. Bringing the palms together in front of the heart space symbolizes honor and respect toward yourself and toward the universe. This mudra expresses love and gratitude.
Close your eyes. Bring the person or situation you originally thought of earlier back into your focus. Begin by enveloping them/it in a blanket of warm, white light.
On the inhale breathe the person or situation in through your heart center and then behind you.
On the exhale breathe them/it back through the heart center, back to the front of your awareness.
Continue this practice either for a few breaths, if that's all the time you have, or until you can feel a sense of connection with this person or situation, if time will allow. Can you come to a place where you can truly wish this person love, light, and happiness, or thank the situation for the lesson it brought into your life? Can you start to feel that true sense of connection, that you are connected, and truly one with this being?
I have moments of clarity, where I can feel gratitude for everything this person brings into my life, the challenges and the happy memories, but they do not always stay. This is my work right now. I honor the work I have to do and I am willing to sit with it as long as I need to, to be the person I wish to be, and not the person that reacts with mean words and hateful thoughts.